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suzannestarr
May 9th, 2006, 09:50 PM
There are many very attractive divorced & single women in the city.
Any suggestions where to meet men in their 50's to 60's?

stache
May 9th, 2006, 09:55 PM
Have you tried the Strand bookstore?

Fabrizio
May 9th, 2006, 09:59 PM
Attractive, single, in their 50´s.... and straight?

Pray the rosary.

ryan
May 9th, 2006, 10:55 PM
Again with the snide remarks directed to first-time female posters. Is there some kind of anti-woman policy I'm not in on?

nyKim20
May 10th, 2006, 08:34 AM
Again with the snide remarks directed to first-time female posters. Is there some kind of anti-woman policy I'm not in on?

I was just wondering the same thing...

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 08:52 AM
"...the snide remarks directed to first-time female posters."

(?) Examples?

ablarc
May 10th, 2006, 09:39 AM
Again with the snide remarks directed to first-time female posters. Is there some kind of anti-woman policy I'm not in on?
ryan, this is not the first time I've noticed you're prone to misreading people's posts, finding negativity where there is none. The remark that's snide is the one that you made.

Get the chip off your shoulder and acquire a sense of humor.

ablarc
May 10th, 2006, 09:41 AM
Attractive, single, in their 50´s.... and straight...

Fabrizio, quite a few divorced guys fit this description

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 09:54 AM
It´s just, you know, THE older straight woman´s lament in NYC.

First suggestion: check out his record collection: broadway cast albums are bad sign... a Stephen Sondheim collection ... and you might as well forget about it....

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"You might have a great time in NYC ..."

31... single...attracted to older women...and Italian? Indeed he will...

Schadenfrau
May 10th, 2006, 12:25 PM
I see the older gentlemen at places like Elaine's and Lexington Bar & Books.

ryan
May 10th, 2006, 01:35 PM
ryan, this is not the first time I've noticed you're prone to misreading people's posts, finding negativity where there is none. The remark that's snide is the one that you made.

Get the chip off your shoulder and acquire a sense of humor.

This is not the first time I've complained about sophomoric sexist "humor." Thanks for noticing. I prefer to laugh with women rather than at them. If it makes you more comfortable to call that a chip and me humorless - instead of honestly discussing sexism - by all means, have at me. I'm quite comfortable with the argument.

nyKim20
May 10th, 2006, 01:45 PM
This is not the first time I've complained about sophomoric sexist "humor." Thanks for noticing. I prefer to laugh with women rather than at them. If it makes you more comfortable to call that a chip and me humorless - instead of honestly discussing sexism - by all means, have at me. I'm quite comfortable with the argument.

I agree with you, Ryan. =)

Just thought I'd let you know.

Schadenfrau
May 10th, 2006, 02:08 PM
Honestly, sexism does rear its ugly head around here pretty frequently, though it's usually more along the lines of a lack of response to MrSpice suggesting that women shouldn't walk the streets alone.

Ninjahedge
May 10th, 2006, 02:14 PM
Ryan, the one thing you have to realize is that sexism exist because there ARE differences in the sexes.

Not as extreme as some of these people would push it, but lets look at the reality of what Fab is saying.

Men, in general, look for younger women. Women do not have this hangup, although they do tend to look for men who are a little better off (moreso than men do). Men generally are earning more, or have saved more when they are older, so older men do not share the same stigma as older women.


I think this is changing, but as long as women still have the biological clock, there will still be that inherent biological desire in men to look for younger women.

Disclaimer: THIS IS NOT AN ABSOLUTE!!!! THERE ARE SHADES OF GREY IN ALL OF THIS AS WELL AS OUTRIGHT CONTRADICTORY EXAMPLES!!! But, in general, this is how it is.

So fab joking about the difficulty in finding an older, DESIRABLE, AVAILABLE strait male is depressingly close to fact. It is NOT easy.

So relax Ryan. Your objection is noted, but yelling at someone who makes a relatively innocuous comment is not going to get them to agree with you, or anything you say.

Unless you are not trying to change his viewpoint and just want to get into a "discussion", well then "have at him". ;)

Ninjahedge
May 10th, 2006, 02:18 PM
Honestly, sexism does rear its ugly head around here pretty frequently, though it's usually more along the lines of a lack of response to MrSpice suggesting that women shouldn't walk the streets alone.

I find it hard to take anything MS says without more than a grain of salt.


But back on topic, finding a guy in the city is a little difficult. I would think that most guys by that age will be set in their habits and try to stick with what they know and are comfortable with.

It all depends on what kind of guy you are looking for. Most of these guys will be going to bars and clubs that they like, not because they are looking for someone (as they might have done in their youth). I would look for places more known for their selection of items (such as scotch or beer), certain bookstores, galleries or even parks.

Think of the type of guy you would like to meet, and think of what he would like, and by that age they are probably there.

GL!

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 02:21 PM
"So fab joking about the difficulty in finding an older, DESIRABLE, AVAILABLE strait male is depressingly close to fact. It is NOT easy."

And to get through the hash reality of it.... a sense of humour helps!

ablarc
May 10th, 2006, 03:25 PM
This is not the first time I've complained about sophomoric sexist "humor." Thanks for noticing. I prefer to laugh with women rather than at them.
Rereading Fabrizio's post I can't find where he's laughing at women. Did he delete something?

Anyway, if you're going to play the white knight it's more convincing with a smile on your face.

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 03:58 PM
What I find sooooo borish about people like nyKim20 and Ryan is the following:

In dealing with Mr. Spice, NYKim says the following...out of the clear blue:

"You are ridiculous. Are you catholic? You must be.
That would explain evvvvvvvverything."

I´m Catholic.

Well....shouldn´t I be offended?

So let this crew lecture about "sexism" or "racsism" or whatever.... and find "snide" remarks where none exist ....and ignore "snide" remarks where they do exist... their sincerity and ability to reason is clearly evident.

ablarc
May 10th, 2006, 04:11 PM
Being offended is usually evidence you have something to hide.

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 04:14 PM
Being offended is usually a lack of sophistication.

ryan
May 10th, 2006, 04:18 PM
I know that it's impolite to call people on their prejudices - even when they take the form of weak joke reinforcing a hegemonic, commonly-held belief - but I was unaware that I had criticized snideness itself. If I had, then you could validly call me a hypocrite. As it is, I don't really see how you can question my sincerity - or my ability to reason.

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 04:23 PM
"As it is, I don't really see how you can question my sincerity - or my ability to reason."

Exactly.

ryan
May 10th, 2006, 04:24 PM
At best, calculated disdain is an easy way to ignore ideas one does not want to hear. It can also serve as a cover for a lazy or disingenuous mind. Either way it's an ad hominem avoidance of - again - ideas one does not want to hear.

Fabrizio
May 10th, 2006, 04:44 PM
Fascinating.

nyKim20
May 10th, 2006, 06:58 PM
"You are ridiculous. Are you catholic? You must be.
That would explain evvvvvvvverything."

I´m Catholic.

Well....shouldn´t I be offended?


Sure, if you really want to be.
What I was doing there was taking the stero type of Cathloic people (most of which like to shove thier beliefs onto others) and doing what he was doing to me.. Taking what I am and trying to tell me how people who are how I am are and live.

It wasnt directed at all Catholics, or even any...I was just turning around what he was doing to me and doing it back.

ablarc
May 10th, 2006, 09:17 PM
At best, calculated disdain is an easy way to ignore ideas one does not want to hear. It can also serve as a cover for a lazy or disingenuous mind. Either way it's an ad hominem avoidance of - again - ideas one does not want to hear.

Fascinating
Actually... boring. ryan, problem is you're no fun. All that sermonizing makes a person dull.

This could have been an amusing and witty thread without all this ponderous moralizing. As it is it's like a pc version of a Baptist sermon.

Makes me want to switch to SSP, where at least they're not dressed in sackcloth and ashes.


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BrooklynRider
May 10th, 2006, 11:20 PM
So, let's take this conversation back to pre-menopausal women with a biological clock ready to chime for the last time or post menopausal women on hormone therapy looking for unlucky-in-love guys wanting to find that "pretty woman" so they can finally use their stash of viagara and engage that animalistic urge for the fairer sex on something other than a high gloss porn magazine.

There, have I offended everyone?

ablarc
May 10th, 2006, 11:32 PM
So, let's take this conversation back to pre-menopausal women with a biological clock ready to chime for the last time or post menopausal women on hormone therapy looking for unlucky-in-love guys wanting to find that "pretty woman" so they can finally use their stash of viagara and engage that animalistic urge for the fairer sex on something other than a high gloss porn magazine.

There, have I offended everyone?
No, thank God, you were mildly amusing.

Then again, I can't speak for the sermonizers; seems they can be offended by just about anything.

Prissy.

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Ninjahedge
May 11th, 2006, 09:36 AM
Being offended is usually evidence you have something to hide.


I take offense to that!!!!

I mean, I have nothing to hide!!!

I mean I take offense to that AND hae nothing to hide!!!!

ablarc
May 12th, 2006, 12:13 AM
NYKim says the following...out of the clear blue:

"You are ridiculous. Are you catholic? You must be.
That would explain evvvvvvvverything."

I´m Catholic.

Well....shouldn´t I be offended?
OK to badmouth Catholics. Not a protected group.